Are you a daughter of a Narcissistic Mother?

Do you struggle with just being you?

• Do you feel like the "Lone Ranger" in the family?
• Do you feel like the "Black Sheep" of the family? The one who has identified problems and the rest of the crew seem to be in denial?
• You are told not to bring up problems because it upsets the apple cart?
• In the analogy of “the elephant in the living room” – you know the elephant is there and you see it but everyone else says its not there?

In the Narcissistic family “Image is everything” the mantra or thought is to present the perfect family. It’s not acceptable to bring up issues and make the family look bad.

Narcissists aren’t accountable usually for their own behaviour and would rather not express feelings. So, then you are left with “Am I crazy? What’s wring with me? Why can I see the elephant and no-one else can?

The Ten Stingers

• 1. You find yourself constantly attempting to win your mother’s love, attention and approval but never feel able to please her.
• 2. Your mother emphasises the importance of how it looks to her rather than how it feels to you.
• 3. Your mother is jealous of you.
• 4. Your mother does not support your healthy expression of self, especially when they conflict with her own needs or threaten her.
• 5. In your family, it’s always about Mom.
• 6. Your mother is unable to empathize.
• 7. Your mother can’t deal with her own feelings.
• 8 Your mother is critical and judgmental.
• 9. Your mother treats you like a friend, not a daughter.
• 10. You have no boundaries or privacy with your mother.

There is hope, there is a way forward with Maternal Narcissism.

In 2008 Dr Karyl McBride wrote the book “Will I ever be good enough? - Healing the daughters of Narcissistic Mothers. This book has been a revelation for many women of all ages who have suffered the debilitating effects of having a mother with narcissistic traits or who has full blown Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).

Ros Wilson – a Counsellor and Counselling Supervisor through the Australian Counselling Association (ACA) has undertaken to complete Dr McBride’s therapy training to help the “Daughters” of Narcissistic mothers through Dr. McBride’s 5 step recovery.

Ros holds private counselling sessions for the daughters of Narcissistic Mothers. For more information please call Ros on 0422 120 114.

Quote – “You can’t change what you don’t acknowledge” Dr Phil