5 Proven Steps to Recover from Narcissistic Abuse - Start Today

5 Proven Steps to Recover from Narcissistic Abuse - Start Today

I understand it can be really hard to leave an abusive relationship, and some never do, but for your own interest and for those you love, the best way is to get out of the abusive relationship in a safe way. Just like everyone else who has ever been abused, you don't deserve to be treated that way. The psychological and emotional scars of Narcissistic abuse cannot be erased by waiting for them to heal on their own. But you are truly worth the work it takes to do this.

The journey takes as long as it takes depending on the circumstances. If you are in an abusive relationship with a Narcissist, the emotional abuse is almost always present whether you can see it or not. You may even think that this is just how they are and that there's nothing that you can do about it. However, it's very important to know that there are things you can do to not engage or not react and/or distance yourself and start recovering from Narcissistic abuse.

NO CONTACT (no excuses)

It's normal to want to stay connected with your ex or your narcissistic parent while you're in the process of recovering from abuse. I advise a “TIME OUT” while you are healing. Remember that staying in contact will prolong a toxic relationship. The longer you avoid them and don't speak, the sooner you can start healing.

If you have children, I understand there needs to be “some” contact as you are both parents, but there is still a lot of ways you can minimise that contact which will be best for you and best for the children.

No-contact with a Narcissist is difficult at first, but essential for your own mental health while you are healing. You cannot have a healthy relationship with a Narcissist, No matter how much they profess their love to you, it is not love. They are addicted to the high they feel when they are in control and you’re seeing them for who they truly are.

CHANGE YOUR REACTIONS

To break the cycle of being their emotional punching bag, learn to change your reactions to them. Realize that you are ignoring them for your own sanity and don’t respond to their texts and calls and don’t initiate conversations either. Stay away from the people who support their behavior as well. This will minimize the amount of contact you have with them and help protect yourself.

It’s never easy to be on the receiving end of some unspeakable horrors and struggle with your mental health.

Is it fair? Absolutely not.

The reality of the matter, though, is that we can't change what has happened but we can change our future.

You can create your own reality in the future - it takes time and healing but it can be done.

You can you take full responsibility for yourself and your recovery with guidance and support, you can take back your life, and feel empowered and in control.

The decision is yours and Yes !!! it is possible! Remember, you are are the most important.

FOCUS ON YOU

It's not your fault. You are not the problem here. Remember, this is being done TO YOU !!! This is NOT your fault. What you do need to do is take care of yourself so you can be there for your friends, family, or partner when they need you most.

Remember that it was never about you - it's time to start focusing on YOU and your healing.

There are a lot of things you can do to recover after Narcissistic abuse, you can do this with guidance and support, you can learn to to take back control and start learning about things that will actually help you move forward. We have not been taught these things in the past.

SELF-CARE

Self-care is so important for healing from Narcissistic abuse—you can't give what you don't have, so take time for yourself today!

I cannot emphasize enough the importance of self-care and living your authentic life.

This is something that you might not be used to.

You’ve spent a lot of time and are willing to sacrifice yourself for others.

Now is the time to change that. It’s like you putting your oxygen mask first on a plane before helping others. You need to put yourself first.

Self-care is where the magic happens. Start with a solid daily routine, and soon enough you'll end up loving it.

Remember: Keeping your distance and stop engaging with abusers is your number one self-care strategy!

ACT NOW

Don't wait until tomorrow - even if it's just five minutes to an hour a day to focus on yourself and care for your emotional needs, you'll notice a huge difference in how you feel.

Many people want something that will quickly solve their problems, but this isn't an overnight thing. It has taken a while for you to be in this pain, some even from birth, so give yourself a chance to unravel the hurt and pain that has been inflicted on to you.

To really learn about Narcissistic abuse and the pain it has caused takes time - we have lived an enmeshed life and we need to start to learn to live authentically or the way we were born to live.

We need to be mindful of the fact that there are different types of traumatic events and traumas which are deeply engrained in survivors.

The only person who can fix this is you and with a lot of help and support - this can be done. It is worth the time and effort.

Make healing your number one priority for today. Practicing 100% determination and commitment will speed up the process significantly.

Don't give up even if this seems difficult. Reach out, get support and you will succeed.

Above, are the steps to follow after being abused by a narcissist. The first step is believing that you deserve better and you can be happy again. Believe in yourself and invest in yourself – go out there and get what you want. You are worth it!!!!.